Mon 29 Jun 2009
Twins and Multiples in School — Same Classroom or Separate?
Posted by KathrynWhiteley under Twin Tips - school
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We dodged a bullet this week. Over the years, I’ve read various articles concerning the issue of twins and multiples in school — whether they should be in the same classroom or separate, and issues with schools that have a set policy on the matter. I’ve been aware that some parents have struggled to get their families needs met, but I’ve always watched from a distance. That didn’t concern me. My kids were in a school where the principal believed in honoring the parents’ wishes when possible.
Until now. My boys were recently accepted into ”EAP” (Elementary Advanced Program for gifted and talented kids) in our school district. They would no longer be attending our neighborhood school. My girls have just finished Kindergarten, and we want to move them to the new school, too.
Logistically, it makes sense for all the kids to be at the same school. With kids in two schools, there would be a tight window for getting them all to school on time and for timely pickup after school. Besides, we feel it would be easier to manage one school’s social calendar as well as managing volunteer efforts in the classrooms.
I was about to mail in the waiver forms when it dawned on me that I needed to check if the new school had a policy for placement of twins. It did. Their practice was to separate twins. Sigh. Wait a minute. “Policy” versus “Practice” — that sounds like a distinction worth exploring.
Last night, I spent some time researching the issue and prepared a rather lengthy email to the new school principal (I had attempted to contact him by phone for several days first, with no luck). I’m very happy to report that I already received a reply and the new principal is a gem. He indicated that separating twins was their preference but they were not opposed to having them in the same classroom when it made sense. He agreed to allow the waiver for my girls into the school and that he would place them in a class together. Thank you, Mr. Principal!
We dodged a bullet. But I was amazed at some of the things I learned in researching this issue. I felt it was important to share my findings with you.
Traditionally, schools and teachers have expressed a preference for, or even have established mandatory policies regarding classroom separation of twins. A study in 1966 by Koch seemed to support the idea that separating twins encouraged them to perform better. But since that study, very little was done to challenge that notion. Some surveys were conducted about how teachers and parents felt about classroom separation of twins. But there was a startling lack of scientific study on the issue. How interesting, given that these more recent surveys showed many twin parents are opposed to separation.
Many schools districts or individual schools do not have written policies concerning separation of twins in the classroom, but instead have a commonly accepted “practice” of separating twins. It is unclear why many schools persist in separating twins as a matter of policy or practice. For several years now, psychologists and twin experts such as the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs (NOMOTC) have recommended a flexible approach to placement of multiples in the classroom.
The 2003 study, What Effect Does Classroom Separation Have on Twins’ Behavior, Progress at School, and Reading Abilities? provides some great insights into the effect that separation has on twins. According to this study, “When compared to those not separated, those separated early had significantly more teacher-rated internalizing problems and those separated later showed more internalizing problems and lower reading scores. Monozygotic (MZ) twins showed more problems as a result of separation than dizygotic (DZ) twins. No group differences emerged for externalizing problems, ADHD or prosocial behaviors. ”
Fitting with the study results, my dizygotic (fraternal) twins were separated for one year of school, and we found it to be beneficial for them. However, my monozygotic (identical) twins would most definitely experience problems being separated from each other. Each case will be unique, and the decision to keep multiples together or to separate them should be made on a case by case basis.
The NOMOTC has compiled the following basic principles in their publication, “Placement of Multiple Birth Children in School: A Guide for Educators”:
- Schools should provide an atmosphere that respects the close nature of the multiple bond while at the same time encouraging individual abilities.
- Schools should maintain a flexible placement policy throughout the early elementary school years.
- When multiple birth children are enrolled in different classrooms at the same grade level there is a need for a consistent approach to instruction and classroom management.
- Educators should move with extreme caution when considering retention, acceleration, or designation in any one of the areas of exceptionality of one or more children in a set of multiples.
- Teachers at the primary, middle and high school levels should value parental input regarding the nature of the multiples’ relationship.
- School districts should provide staff at all grade levels with multiples related research and reading materials. Educators should seek out the latest research findings regarding the psychology of multiple birth children and incorporate these findings into their pedagogy.
- At the university level, schools of education should include research findings into the psychology of twins and higher order multiples in their curricula.
It is time that educators (teachers, principals, administrators, school psychologists) bring themselves up to speed on what is best for multiples. They are going to keep seeing more and more of them in their schools as the numbers continue to rise.
- Part 1: Twins and Multiples in School — Same Classroom or Separate?
- Part 2:Twins and Multiples in School — 10 Reasons to Place Twins Together
- Part 3: Twins and Multiples in School — 8 Reasons to Separate Twins
- Part 4: Twins and Multiples in School — How to decide between together or separate
- Part 5: Twins and Multiples in School Together or Separate — What to do if you aren’t consulted
Copyright 2009 Kathryn Whiteley – http://twinParenthood.com



Hear, hear! I’m still amazed at how frequently the “separate or not” issue is, as you noted, stated policy or practice at a school. There are so many variables in the development of young children, why WOULDN’T schools look at this on a case-by-case basis?
I haven’t had to deal with this firsthand, being lucky to have a school administration who is open to the preferences of the parents.
We put our B/G twins in separate classes, for the record. They were together in preschool, and we realized that they would both be more successful in school without each other as a distraction in the classroom. So far, so good!
Your children are VERY lucky- they have parents who do their homework! In order to help parents and educators make informed decisions regarding placement of multiples MOST developed a policy statement: http://www.mostonline.org/School_policy.pdf
To find out if your state has legislation on classroom placement and multiples and additional resources on this topic:
http://www.mostonline.org/faq71.htm
For more information on school aged issues and multiples:
http://www.mostonline.org/faq_school.htm
Anything I or MOST can do to help please just let us know.
Thanks,
Maureen
Thanks Maureen! These are fantastic resources for parents of twins and multiples!
Kat
Wow! You have done your homework. Good for you. Another great book to try to get your hands on is Twins and Triplet Psychology, edited by Audrey Sandbank.
I completely agree that it should be decided upon based on the specific children that decision will affect. Just as no two children are exactly alike, no two sets of twins are exactly alike!
As a child, my sister and I were 10 months apart in age. Due to her birthday in December, she did not start school until the year that I did. As a result, we spent most of our elementary years in the same classes. I hated it. Always being compared to my sister by teachers. It was awful.
As a parent, I vowed never to allow my children to be in the same class as their siblings if they were that close in age. Well, it seemed I wouldn’t have to worry about that because none of our children were close enough in age to have to deal with that situation. Until our last were born. Identical twin boys came out of the blue. They are 16 months old now and the bond they have developed just seems to get stronger every day. Now, I’m not so sure and my resolve is weakening daily.
When they are a few years older, we’ll definitely have to make that decision then based on how they relate to others with and without their “other half”.
~Renae
Isn’t it funny how there are so many things we think we’ll never do as parents, but then when we’re actually making those decisions the circumstances seem so different! I’m sure it will be clearer as they get older what will be best for them. Good Luck!
Kat
You are so right! Some things, like methods of discipline, I stayed firm on. I refuse to do certain things. I insist on talking to my kids and taking their sides FIRST. But I now realize that just because *I* didn’t enjoy being so close to my sister, that doesn’t mean my *kids* won’t enjoy it. My husband and I don’t compare our kids to each other, which I think will go a looooong way in establishing that bond between them.
Although we now have 6 kids, and you’d think we would have it all figured out by now. But alas, that’s not the case. Each one that comes along teaches us something different, don’t they? And, in this case, these two are going to teach us quite a bit, aren’t they?
I definitely think that parents should have a say and that it should be judged on a case-to-case basis. I did put my twins in separate classrooms, and it’s been great for both of them, especially the less dominant one. They’re going into 2nd grade now.
I’ve seen these benefits: Less fighting between the two at home; less academic competition; both of them blooming into individuals with different roles, likes & dislikes, strengths & weaknesses; huge speech improvements in my daughter with coginive delays — she went from being incredibly shy to winning the friendship award two years in a row. Their teachers appreciate the separation too because my girls tend to mess around a lot when they’re together — double trouble.
Of course, I have to buy double the cupcakes (for their birthday), double the valentines, etc. too.
Thanks for this post. It’s interesting to see how other parents of multiples think about these things.
-Ali
Thanks Ali, for all those great benefits of separating twins in school. I’m working on Part 3 (Reasons to separate twins in school) in my series and your comments will be a big help!
Hey Kat,
I’ve mostly run across educators of the opinion that twins should be separated by 3rd grade at latest. That said I requested our boys be together last year (5th grade)the school allowed it and it was one of their most successful years. Could be partly the teacher, who I loved when our daughter had her previously. It’s so much easier to participate with the class, attend conferences and curriculum nights and keep track of homework when they’re together.
I’m hoping they’ll be together again this year.
One thing that doesn’t get mentioned much is the fact that some teachers have widely varying ideas on homework and curriculum and it’s allowed even in the same school. We’ve really struggled in years when the boys had teachers at opposite ends of the spectrum. I didn’t send in my request this year but am REALLY hoping the boys are together again and that they have the teacher they’re hoping for as I feel that if they both get the other teacher it will be bad and if only one of them gets the other one it will be disastrous…
Hi Lisa~
I hadn’t seen this factor mentioned very much in all the research I did, but I agree that it is a big issue (see part 2 of my series which covers 10 reasons to keep twins together in school: http://twinparenthood.com/2009/07/13/twins-in-school-10-reasons-together/). My kids are always comparing what work (chores) have to be done and school work is no different.
Hope they both get into the “good” classroom!
Kat
This was an excellent article. My children are almost 2 and they have not started school yet, but I have starting thinking about keeping them together in the classroom. My girls learn well together and encourage each other. I thought I would be forced to separate them when/if they entered a traditional school. Thanks for giving me more information on this subject and voice to speak my preferences when the time arises.
Cleverlychanging.com
Ah, thanks for reposting a link to this, I never caught it the first time around! My ID twins are starting preschool in two weeks and they will be in separate classrooms. Everyone (including teachers) seems SHOCKED that we are choosing this.
For me, separating really seems like the best option. I really want my girls to be known as individuals and addressed correctly by name and this feels like such an easy way to ensure that happens, not to mention allowing them a few hours a week to play and interact with others without the influence of their twin. I think they have a great bond, and that a few hours apart (more as they get older, obviously) will not hurt that, in fact it may just increase it. We’ll see! I know we’re lucky to have our twins be younger sibs so they are super comfortable with doing anything they’ve seen big sis do (solo, since she’s a singleton!).
It’s really interesting to hear about that study, though! Wow! I am not opposed to them being in the same classroom if there are compelling reasons to keep them together, but so far (in our extremely limited experience — my girls are only 3!) I haven’t seen that.
im a mom of identical twin boys 4 years old and mine have been together in pre-school for 2 years now. teachers have a harder time telling who is who but the kids know. mine both have speech 3 times a week and my one has ot wich they are working on with him he dont liek to fingerpait or get dirty they have improved alot. i plain on keeping my twins together in the same class till tehy tell me its time to sepearate them but they go do there own things and play with diff friends not like they follow eachother around the class..
Hi Chrissy!
Both sets of my twins are in separate classes this year. Last year, the teacher (who happens to be an identical twin) could not tell our identical girls apart, either. She had to have them sit on opposite sides of the classroom. She also gave them a Jolly Rancher candy every time she called one by the wrong name. They loved that teacher because of all the candy they got! Oh boy. ♥ Kat.