Tue 8 Sep 2009
TwinTuesday Survey: Do you generate a lot of attention when you are out and about?
Posted by KathrynWhiteley under Surveys
[4] Comments
Getting out and about with multiples is especially difficult. Then, add to that all the attention that comes with having two or more and it can drive you nuts!
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My husband I used to get a lot of unwanted attention when we would go out. My husband is heavily tattooed and pierced and I myself have quite a few visible tattoos. People were scared to talk to me when I was pregnant.
But, since having the boys we always have people coming up to us and talking to us about the boys. Asking if they’re twins, if we took drugs to have twins, are they fraternal, paternal? lol, is one a girl, boy we have our hands full, etc.
Sometimes it’s welcome conversation. I’ve met a lot of other twin mom’s this way and have been able to exchange “war” stories. It’s nice to see/meet other people that have been through the stages that we’re in or coming into and see that they’ve survived.
There are times that I’d like to just be able to walk the mall and not get stopped every fifteen feet.
Sometimes I have to wonder if the boys notice that we stop and talk to a lot of strangers or if it’s just old hat to them now that they’re three years old.
LOL! I love the “are they paternal?” question. We get that too
As my kids got older, they started asking, “Mom, do you know her?” — which is actually nice because then we can discuss that I can be friendly even though I don’t know the person asking questions.
Thanks for your comments!
Kat
I have twin boys an gets lots off attention when i take them out. but don’t like people stinking there heads in the push chair as one off them was in intensive care for 3 weeks an they get nasty when i ask them to leave them alone. I don’t mind people asking about them if I know them. our nice people who ask questions.I just don’t see why me telling them 2 back off is wrong as they are my kids an I don’t won’t them getting ill again am I being stupid.
Emma –
That is really tough. Of course you are not being unreasonable to want a little distance. Isn’t it tricky to be able to say it nicely and without causing people to take offense? I always stood near the opening to the stroller and was quick to step between them and their admirers with a smile on my face and a nice comment to distract them. Hang in there! It does get better!
Kat